Handling 'Missed Opportunities' with Women

by Ron Louis & David Copeland

Do you ever beat yourself up about missing opportunities with women?

Here's the easiest, most effective way to start TAKING those opportunities, and GETTING the women you want.

The other day, we got this question in our email:

Dear Ron and David,

I always beat up on myself, because I see opportunities to take action with women, but I don't take them.

The other day I was at the mall, and there was this beautiful girl working at a store, and I was the only one there, and it would have been easy to do the "goodbye compliment" or "goodbye introduction," but I just couldn't.

I really feel like a loser. What should I do?

Here's the answer. . .

This may surprise you, but the more men we coach, the more sure we become that it is true:

Seeing an opportunity and NOT taking it is part of the process of learning to take opportunities.

So when you see an opportunity to talk to a woman, and you don't do it, know this: THAT'S PART OF LEARNING TO TAKE THEM.

It's like there is this "seducer guy" inside of you, that you are learning to bring out.

This guy comes out one step at a time.

First he notices the situations where he could take action.

Then, he does little "Dry Runs", imagining things he COULD HAVE said.

Then, in time, he takes the action.

This is the natural process of learning to take the opportunities with women that come your way.

But here's the important thing:

Beating yourself up actually make the process of learning to take opportunities go SLOWER.

Our experience, and the experience of our students, has shown us that you learn to take opportunities faster if you don't beat yourself up for seeing opportunities and not taking them.

So here's what you do:

Next time you see an opportunity with a woman, and don't take it, say to yourself, "Oh, that was an opportunity. What might I have done?"

Then run through what you might have done, in your head, WITHOUT beating yourself up about it.

Then remind yourself, "Great! I'm one more step closer to doing it."

Soon you'll find yourself just taking the opportunities that show up with women -- if you allow this learning process to happen.

About the Author: Ron and David are dating coaches. Their book How to Succeed With Women has sold over 40,000 copies. They have been featured in magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Playboy, YM, Maxim, GQ UK, Swank, Gallery, and Players. They have also been on the Rosanne Barr Show, the Issac Hays show, To Tell the Truth, Fox News, CNN, UPN, and ABC. For more great tips on meeting and dating women or to ask a question go to howtosucceedwithwomen.com.