Success Coach - Doc Love

Would Hef Care If Her IQ Didn't Break 100?

Hey Doc,

I absolutely love your stuff. I can't begin to tell you how my dating life has changed thanks to you. I used to be a loser, and now I'm beating the women off with sticks. It's a miracle how much my life has been transformed since I started reading your books and columns.

But I have a question that desperately needs your attention because I can't find the answer to it anywhere.

After applying your principles, I am meeting and dating extremely beautiful women. (Yes, it's absolutely true and when I think about it, I'm astounded. Even my friends and family are amazed.) By the way, I live in Miami, where there are beautiful women everywhere you look.

The more beautiful women I meet and date, the easier it seems to be to attract even more of them because they see me with Beautiful Women. They must ask themselves, "I wonder what he's got?" And you must be asking yourself: Okay, so what's this guy's beef?

Well, here's the problem. What I'm discovering is that the more physically attractive a woman is, the more boring and brainless she is. One is dumber than the next, Doc. I recently dated one who believed that New Jersey was a city. Another one thought Ernest Hemingway played for the Los Angeles Lakers. And that's just the tip of the iceberg.

This makes it extraordinarily difficult to carry on a conversation, go on a long trip, or even think of entering into a real partnership with them. I hate to say this, but unless we are being intimate I can't stand to be around them. I try everything I can think of to stimulate intelligent give and take, but since they are brainless, they can't talk about current events, goals, their jobs -- nothing.

I know you must still be thinking "What the heck is this guy kvetching about," but believe me; it's a real problem when you're in the market for someone to get serious with.

Doc, should I forget about the "10s" and just date average-looking but intelligent girls? Or is it possible to find an Einstein on the catwalk?

Thanks for any ideas you might have.

Pat - who's sick of gorgeous idiots

Hi Pat,

We should all have your problems, pal! But I'm glad that my techniques have gotten you dates with a succession of Christie Brinkley's and Charlize Theron's. Because you make a very interesting point -- that being seen in the presence of a Beautiful Woman is a really important tool in the dating game. (Some guys even pay for the privilege -- check the yellow pages under "Wing Women." But if you can do it for free, more power to you.)

As my cousin Fast Eddie Love likes to say, "As a chick magnet, being seen with a Beautiful Woman on your arm is the next best thing to owning a 145-foot yacht!"

I know what the Feministas are thinking. They're just dying for me to agree with you right now, Pat, but I'm not going to do that. (By the way, I can't win with the Feministas. If I agreed with you that all Beautiful Women were stupid, they'd attack me for bashing women. If I said that the only smart women were unattractive, they'd be all over me too " for the same thing. So they've got me coming and going.)

But let me tell you something. There are some Beautiful Women out there who are brilliant -- you just haven't met them yet, that's all.

Still, if you want to do Beautiful Women, buddy, this is what you're going to have to put up with. It stands to reason that most of them are going to spend more time on their looks than on their personalities or boning up on the relativity theories of Stephen Hawking. Why? Because they don't have to. They're attracting the attention of men without having to work for it.

Dating Beautiful Women is like walking through a romantic minefield. If they're not getting hit on by every guy around, they're emptying your wallet. Remember, as my cousin Rabbi Love says, "Every beautiful item comes with a heavy price tag."

Nevertheless, Pat, I think it's great that you've graduated to the league of Beautiful Women, but before you met me, maybe you wouldn't have realized how stupid they can be, so that's one more good thing that's come out of following my principles. With "The System," you're always moving closer to REALITY -- and that's a good thing, especially when it comes to women.

The more important thing to remember here is that you only need one smart Beautiful Woman. Maybe you'll have to go through 104 super-models to get to her, but you'll have your fun along the way, right? When you hit number 105, guess what? She's studying to be a lawyer! And then you've finally got somebody with some brains. (If you don't believe me about babes who happen to be lawyers, check out some of the prosecutors and defense attorneys-turned-commentators on Court TV!)

The point is that you've just had a run of the wrong ones here. Believe me, fellas, there are lots of smart Beautiful Women out there. Maybe you've had a "dumb run" because you're living in Miami, Pat. Too much sun can fry the brain. And it's more conducive to breeding beach bunnies than nuclear physicists.

Remember, guys: finding beauty with brains just takes longer.

To hear my CALL-IN RADIO SHOW, send me your love questions or to find out more about "The System," visit me at www.doclove.com or call (800) 404-2644.

Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with one man versus another?"