How to Get Sexual with a Woman

by David DeAngelo

Question:

You are right! Your stuff is the best that I have found out there on the market. The majority of the products imply that women have all the power and the men just have to accept it.

I have two questions for you though. I'll make it brief.

1) I've noticed that on your emails a technique that is mostly used is being cocky and funny which I have used to great results. But once a man gets the inner game going does he still have to use this technique?

I remember you saying in your CDs that once a man gets his inner game going any technique he uses is more likely to work. I was just wondering if all the guys you know who go out with a lot of women do the same things or are they unique in their approaches?

2) Even though I'm getting to meet more girls and getting their numbers and email addresses thanks to you, I find it difficult to take things to a more intimidate level. I've been dating a few girls but I get a little frustrated when after the date is over sometimes I don't even get a kiss.

I've been playing it cool and using the cocky and funny technique and they are responding but ultimately I'm not getting any sex. Sometimes I don't know if it's what I'm doing or the girls I'm dating. Is this something I should be concerned about? My inner game is not where it should be yet but I'm getting there. I would like to hear your advice on this subject.

Thanks.

R.F., NYC

Answer:

Thanks for writing in.

First of all, congratulations on getting your success to the level where you can get women's emails and numbers, and get dates.

You're doing great. Just stick with your program of improving and working on your skills, and you'll soon have all the success you want.

Now let's address your questions...

I'll paraphrase your first question as:

"Does a guy HAVE to keep being Cocky & Funny even after he gets his inner game together?" and "Do guys who are naturally successful with women all do the same things (and are they all Cocky & Funny), or do they all do different things?"

The first part of the answer is that...

No Two Guys I Know Do EXACTLY the Same Things

But you might remember me saying that the thing that was the key to my own personal success with women was meeting and learning from several guys who were "naturals" with women.

As I talked to them, learned from them and watched these guys interact with women, I realized that they were all doing BASICALLY the same things.

Sure, they each had their individual techniques and ways of attracting women, but they just had so many things in common that it was amazing.

Keep in mind, many of the guys I learned from didn't even know each other. In other words, they each figured out how to be successful on their own... it just happened that they all did the same kinds of things.

ONE of those things that most of the guys I know who are successful do is combine arrogance and humor in a kind of "Extreme Flirting".

And to answer your question, I don't believe that you HAVE to do anything... or that you have to KEEP doing anything. But being Cocky & Funny works so well, and it's so fun, and it says so many of the right things, I can't imagine why you'd ever stop.

I'll put it this way: When you have so many women calling you that you just can't handle it, then start messing with the formula.

Until then, keep using Cocky & Funny.

And now let's talk about your second question...

How to Take Things to an Intimate Level

Most guys really have no idea how to take things to a "physical" level with a woman. They sit around hoping something happens, or that the woman will send some kind of unmistakable signal that says "Jump on me!".

Well, the bad news is that hoping and waiting for HER to initiate things just doesn't work most of the time. You need to move things forward.

Remember, the woman you're with knows what you're thinking. You're not fooling anyone.

If you want to kiss her, she knows it. If you're too scared to do it, she knows it.

But attractive women aren't interested in getting "physically" involved with Wussy boys who can't even muster the balls to kiss them.

An attractive woman will let you squirm and squirm and die on the vine before SHE'LL take things into her own hands and initiate the physical intimacy.

Now, there are a couple of main reasons why men don't succeed in taking things to a "physical" level:

Not understanding how women become sexually aroused.
Not preparing in advance and knowing what's going to happen at every step.

The first issue, not understanding how women become sexually aroused, is a bigger conversation. There's no way that we can cover it in an article like this (but I recommend that you go back through your Advanced CD Program, and the "Sex Secrets" bonus booklet that comes with Double Your Dating for a detailed discussion).

But here are a couple of hints...

First, men get turned on INSTANTLY... we're like on/off switches. Women get turned on over time... they're more like volume knobs. Their arousal levels go up and down.

If You Want to Get a Woman Turned On, You Must Do It in STAGES

One of my favorite techniques for this is what I call "Two Steps Forward, One Step Back". Quite simply, you stop at each stage and move back a step. If you kiss her, then lean back and hold her hand. If you're holding her hand, take your hand away for awhile... get it?

Do this all the way from first contact all the way to the bedroom... and beyond. This technique takes the ATTRACTION and AROUSAL that are present, and it greatly AMPLIFIES them.

Starting with just a little spark, you can build a huge flame in a short time by moving Two Steps Forward, One Step Back... and by creating ANTICIPATION this way.

The next reason men fail in this area is because they just don't think ahead, plan ahead, and know what is going to happen.

You can't "get physical" with a woman if you never get back to your place alone with her... or if you don't take the first steps... or if you don't know how to get her aroused.

You Must Think and Plan Ahead

For instance, if you're going to go out with a woman for a cup of tea, have her meet you at YOUR place to start.

Then, when she comes over, leave quickly. Now you're going TOGETHER. And guess what? You'll be going HOME together as well.

When you get BACK to your house after tea, tell her she can come in for a few, as long as she gets lost, because your mom told you that you have to be in bed by 9. Tell her "No funny business, OK?"

Then when she comes in, KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO! Take her on a tour of the house. Settle down on the couch or on your bed. Use the Kiss Test. Give her a massage. Two Steps Forward, One Step Back. Get her turned on.

What I'm trying to say is that you really need to KNOW what's going to happen and set things up so that you wind up alone with the girl that you're interested in.

Think about it.

If you, let's say, meet her at a mall that's far from your house... what's going to happen?

At the end of your tea date and some walking around it's not going to make sense to invite her over to your place... because it's too far... and because she's going to be thinking "I don't even know this guy".

But if she comes to your place TO START, it's a COMPLETELY different story. It will FEEL completely different, and she'll BEHAVE in a different way.

One of my friends likes to suggest that he and his date stay in for the evening and watch a movie. He first opens a bottle of wine, and whips up some light classy snacks (during which time he can be Cocky & Funny, charming, etc.), and then they go straight to watching a movie together (during which time he can start kissing her, etc.).

The point is that you have to THINK about this stuff in advance. Plan it.

I'm Not Getting Any Sex

And while we're on the topic, I want to ask you to start thinking about things a little differently.

In your letter, you said "...they are responding but ultimately I'm not getting any sex...".

When you say "I'm not getting any sex" I have to shake my head a little.

STOP thinking about "getting sex" and instead start thinking about how you can get a woman feeling so good and feeling so aroused that she is chasing you around the house!

The mindset of "I want to get" is selfish and usually leads to NOT getting what you want.

The mindset of figuring out how to make this woman you're interested FEEL a powerful sexual ATTRACTION for you... and experience an incredible level of physical pleasure will lead you to more success.

...and finally... if you're reading this right now, and you'd like to REALLY understand how to meet women, get dates, and take things to a "physical" level skillfully (and without all the objections that most guys get), I recommend that you check out my eBook.

Along with my eBook Double Your Dating, you get THREE great free bonus booklets. One of them is called "Sex Secrets: How to Turn a Woman On, Satisfy Her In a Big Way, And Get Her to Do the Things You've Always Wanted". And I mean it! You'll learn how to create ANTICIPATION in a way that turns women on POWERFULLY.

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Watch my free video where I reveal the 4 Laws of Attraction and how to use these 4 laws to meet and get any woman you want.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo