posted 02-06-2002 04:34 PM            

How many things do we all do that are way more risky then approaching a woman, chatting her up, and getting her number??

I came to this realization recently at work. I am a shop steward, meaning that I am always having to stand up to management on a daily basis. It is sorta high stress, and the personal risks are pretty high; I have to keep myself and others from getting in trouble at work, and I get criticized by co-workers and especially management; it is a leadership role with all the demands that implies. The other day I had to lay it on the line with the main manager. He totally backed down. I was feeling pretty good about that.

I work with the public, and about 5 minutes later this woman came in, whom I have always been curious about and who is very attractive. Then I thought: it makes no sense that I can be on one hand be screwing with the people in charge at work, but shy away from something as simple as asking for a number, even from someone who is super-attractive. I was feeling so confident that I was able to skip over most of the small talk (we already have a kind of rapport) and just ask her if she wanted to go out. She said yes and then gave me her work number.

posted 02-06-2002 06:13 PM            

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Originally posted by chicago#1:
Hopefully, this will clarify--I didn't make plans with her then; is that what you mean??

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That was not what I meant! I just have the opinion that it is better to ask for the home phone number and to wait asking her for a date until you make the phone call some days later. That�s my opinion, but that doesn�t make it the truth. You have to make your own decisions.

Of course you should date her! Some mistakes (or maybe you handled it just right) doesn�t mean that you should give up. Just always think about what you can make different the next time.

I hope you understand what I�m trying to tell you.

posted 02-11-2002 02:08 AM            

I think it would be helpful to post a series of examples that link together familiar successful behaviors to dating behaviors. It would reduce the intimidation factor of dating by making it as commonplace as going to work.

posted 05-23-2002 04:40 AM            

Though David Blaine willingly exposes himself to these feats of endurance and faces his fears through these stunts he does, I wonder how much ballz he has when it comes to approaching women.

I heard him on Howard Stern this morning talking about how women like Fiona Apple and Angie Everheart are "friends" of his, and it sounded a bit AFCish.