posted 10-22-2001 01:05 PM            

Although women say they go to bars to dance, we all know that's bull****. Women go to bars to have their egos stroked, get free drinks, and have fun, and meet lots of guys they can talk about for hours with all their friends.

So the main thing is in your approach you want to convey 2 things from your appearance. 1) You're not just some guy, you're somebody important, cool, and confident. 2) You don't have an agenda, you just would like to meet her...

Okay, your approach must be direct but casual as well. No opening cheese line. Simply walk up and say "Hi, my name's _____, I haven't seen you here before." If she's receptive to your advance she'll tell you her name. This opening sets you up for a lead into a casual conversation about where she likes to go out, what she likes to do. Keep the conversation focused on what she likes. Mirror her actions, and words, stay for about 5 or 6 minutes. Then when a pause in conversation arises...<don't let the pause last for more than 5 seconds> say, "You know I'd really like to stay and chat with you for a bit but I'm afraid I have to disappear for a while. Maybe I'll run into you later for a dance. It was a pleasure meeting you <her name>." Remember her name for later. Now go find some random girls, you're not really interested in, to dance with for a bit. Don't TRY to be noticed by the girl you were talking to, but don't hide either. If it comes up later, say that you had to get up because you just remembered you had promised a dance to someone. Come back a little later and talk some more and get her phone number.

If she didn't give you her name right off the bat it means she is not interested... at the moment, and that you either need to work some more or piss off. To reverse her position, she needs a neg hit. Simply say that you came over to find out a bit about one of her friends that she's with. Pick one less attractive than her. Ask a few questions about her under the guise of trying to determine whether her friend has the credentials you're looking for. If she asks why you don't just go talk to her yourself, say that you find friends are more honest in these sort of surroundings and you'd rather not waste your time. The affrontery of it all! The woman you're really interested in will be FUMING that you're not interested in her and will try to get you to cave in and tell her she's more attractive than her friend. As you elicit more info about her friend, feign a little disinterest in certain points about her friend. "She likes Babylon 5???" or something of the like. Whether you like it or not, you are trying to convey that you probably wouldn't connect with her friend without actually saying it.
The woman you're interested in will jump on your bandwagon and try to make herself look like a better catch and concur with you on these, which is when you say "Yeah, thanks for givin' me the low down. I'm not so interested as I was... You know, at first when I approached you I thought you were pretty stand offish, You shouldn't grimace when people introduce themselves to you. I think WE could have hit it off quite nicely, except for that. Enjoy your night." Don't ask for her number. She'll find the opportunity to bump into you later after she works out in her head what a mistake she just made letting you out of her sight. Women have the amazing ability to escalate a minor little annoyance to DEFCON 4. She will make it a priority that night to find you and get you to ask for her phone number.

Deagleclaw out

posted 10-23-2001 10:00 AM            

Nice bar tip. I will have to give it a shot.

BTW. What ever happened to the girl you were living with that wasn't putting out as much? Last time I saw you were going to have a talk with her.

Anyway, it's good to see that you are back.

Good Luck,

posted 10-23-2001 01:24 PM            

We're still together. I sent her back home to live with her folks when school started... covering my @ss really. In Canada, 6 months of co-habitation is all it takes for the government to consider you common-law... I'm not going through that bullshyt until I get hitched. Even though I may end up marrying this one, i'm not about to bet half of everything I own and "Pal-imony" on the off chance that she is unlike all other women.

For the record... living with your girlfriend, not a good idea.

posted 10-23-2001 01:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Deagleclaw:
Hey DtL,

We're still together. I sent her back home to live with her folks when school started... covering my @ss really. In Canada, 6 months of co-habitation is all it takes for the government to consider you common-law... I'm not going through that bullshyt until I get hitched. Even though I may end up marrying this one, i'm not about to bet half of everything I own and "Pal-imony" on the off chance that she is unlike all other women.

For the record... living with your girlfriend, not a good idea.

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Deagleclaw,

Smart move man. You don't want to be in a situation where she can take half just because you live together for over 6 months. Make sure it's the real thing. I am happy for you. I hope things work out.

Good Luck,

posted 10-29-2001 02:57 PM            

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For the record... living with your girlfriend, not a good idea.

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Word!!!!!!!

posted 11-07-2001 09:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Deagleclaw:
In Canada, 6 months of co-habitation is all it takes for the government to consider you common-law...

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It's only 6 months? Damn... You canuckle heads are crazy. I'm gonna have to jibe at my roommate. Not that I wouldn't anyway.

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posted 11-19-2001 04:59 PM            

It's easy... all you gotta remember are the key elements and wing it from there...

1) Approach the woman
2) Chat her up
3) If she's interested, proceed with plan A, if she doesn't seem that interested proceed with plan B.

Plan A)
1) Disappear
2) If you can, make her a little bit jealous.
3) Return
4) Chat
5) close

Plan B)
1) Pick out a girl from one of her friends who's not as attractive.
2) Ask a lot of questions about her friend
3) Make her jealous
4) Express some disinterest and allow her to tell you more things that will disinterest you.
5) Thank her for her honesty and deliver the blow. Memorize this "Yeah, thanks for givin' me the low down. I'm not so interested as I was... You know, at first when I approached you I thought you were pretty stand offish, You shouldn't grimace when people introduce themselves to you. I think WE could have hit it off quite nicely, except for that. Enjoy your night."

By doing this, it is YOU who are doing the rejecting, not her. Women throw themselves at guys who reject them. It has to do with regaining the self esteem they lose by the rejection.

posted 01-17-2002 01:43 PM            

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