posted 11-15-2001 08:26 AM            

(I am going to use the hypothetical hottie "Judy" to make this tip easier to understand.)

If you can get Judy's friends on your side you will find that they will work in your favor. It's like having someone working behind the scenes for you. Her friends will actually ENCOURAGE her to pursue you and/or (hopefully) hook up with you even when you aren't around.

If, for some reason, Judy's closest friends come to dislike you then this concept works in the opposite direction. They will try to get her to hook up with someone else (that they do like) and they will talk bad about you and make fun of you when you aren't around.

I learned the importance of this concept many years ago and have been sure to use a girl's friends to my advantage ever since. I can also look back and see relationships with girlfriends that went sour right around the same time that I started not getting along with her friends.

Some tips on getting in good with the friends...

- Don't ignore the friend. I don't like to be ignored, you don't like to be ignored. In fact, most likely they are sick of being ignored. You are hitting on their (probably) better looking friend who is always getting all the attention. Give her some attention and she will love you for it.

- Treat both of them with respect. Judy's friend is watching you like a hawk while you talk to her. One little peek at her boobs when you THINK that nobody is watching and when you walk away Judy's friend is whispering in her ear, "That guy is such a jerk, he was staring down your shirt! LOSER!"

- Become friends with the friends. This is especially important if you are planning on pursuing a LTR with a girl. Now, if Judy leaves you her friends will be like �We miss _________.� And make her feel guilty for dumping you. ; ) This is always difficult to do (sometimes a girls friends are pretty annoying) but it pays off big in the long run if you can not only be nice to the friends but if you can actually BEFRIEND them.

To summarize, become friends with the Judy's friends, and they will talk about how good looking you are. Piss her friends off and they will talk about how good looking someone else is.

Hope this helps,

posted 11-16-2001 07:28 AM            

I know a girl's friends could influence her but don't tell me that she did not put a good word for you in front of her friends. Let me ask you one thing, if a girl that you are pursuing likes you, do you think she will not talk anything good about you?

Furthermore, I think it is better to focus more on her rather than too much on her friends. Of course,give them some attention but not too much or your so-called potential girlfriend will not be yours cause you ignored her!

Good Luck

posted 11-16-2001 07:53 AM            

How?

"Let me ask you one thing, if a girl that you are pursuing likes you, do you think she will not talk anything good about you?"

Yes, she probably did. That is not what this post is about. This post is about how her friends can influence her once they don't like you compared to when they do like you.

"Furthermore, I think it is better to focus more on her rather than too much on her friends."

Yes, you would want to do that. I didn't think that I had to say that. I mean to imply that the friend were more important, just that her influence is a factor you must consider when picking up girls.

Thanks,

Brian

posted 11-17-2001 02:17 PM            

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Originally posted by comote:
I have to agree with the tip. Back in my afc days a girl who I was with for 3 years broke up with me and among the main reasons she gave was because her friends liked this other guy better. A woman's friends can always influence her, you are NEVER free of that.

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Agreed...
Hopefully, though, you can find one who's level-headed enough to where although she takes input from friends, she uses her own noggin to make a final decision.

posted 11-17-2001 08:59 PM            

A woman's friends are generally integral to her life (social creatures remember) and they will place their social approval in the group above anything else, even their own individual attractions.

posted 11-18-2001 06:23 AM            

A smooth and clever variation on social proof, which works for similar reasons. To a woman 'Other chicks like him' is always a huge turn-on, no matter who those other chicks are. It's a sign of social status. And status sells.

posted 10-14-2002 04:02 PM            

I say that, if you are too nice you may get the romantic attentions of the uglier friends, but you can only be flattered if you do.

However, the basic idea is flawless, I've seen this in real experience and it's SO TRUE. What's more, being friends with everyone, regardless of whether you fancy them or not opens you up to much more opportunities, the hot girls friends can introduce you to more hot friends, invite you to parties, set you up. Blah blah blah.

And yes, as the post says, you have 1000% more chance if you are in with her friends. You make it almost IMPOSSIBLE for yourself if her friends dislike you, it is very true that women define themselves by their social contact.