posted 11-10-2001 05:30 AM            

The story goes like this: I went out tonight with a few of my female friends (it's great to have female friends, by the way) and they brought along a friend of theirs who I had only met one time before. I didn't have a great amount of interest in this girl, but I decided that she would be great for practicing my DJ skills on. I didn't realize how powerful this material can be.

On the way back home, I started talking to her with the serious intent of refining my skills. As is advised on this board, she was the subject of the conversation, and when the topics moved away from her, I tried to find a way to at least relate them to her, if not move her back to being the main subject. I don't remember how we started talking, but once we did, I couldn't stop. Maybe I've learned a lot, or maybe I was too focused on practicing, but the result was remarkable. In about 20 minutes, she went from showing no interest in me to giving signals like it was her job.

So there are two lessons here. First, when it comes to talking to girls, talk to them about them. It's actually quite easy, because most of the time, they can't shut up about themselves. The second lesson is to practice. Even if you find a girl you're not interested in, as I did tonight, practice talking to her. Reading the posts here is great, but it's even better when you put when you learn into action.

posted 11-10-2001 09:30 AM            

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Originally posted by meathead:
As is advised on this board, she was the subject of the conversation, and when the topics moved away from her, I tried to find a way to at least relate them to her, if not move her back to being the main subject

First, when it comes to talking to girls, talk to them about them. It's actually quite easy, because most of the time, they can't shut up about themselves.

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Exactly. It is all about being charming (making the person feel good about themselves.) This works in the workplace with the boss, with guys at the gym, etc.

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1) Progress always involves risk: you can't steal second base and keep your foot on first.

2) Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.

posted 11-10-2001 03:14 PM            

Perfect! It's a given in theory many times on this board and now you found the practical answer.

Keep up the good work!

posted 11-13-2001 02:38 AM            

Basically, conversation is all about flirting. You can be the most homely person on earth but if you master the art of flirting, you can have some serious game here.

posted 11-13-2001 11:50 AM            

Thanks for the tip.

posted 11-14-2001 05:45 AM            

That's one hell of a question you bring up: kino. There certainly is a lot of talk about it on this board. To answer your question, I didn't use it at all. It never really crossed my mind, but for this girl, I was just practicing my conversation skills on her. Now that you bring it up, it makes me wonder what kind of an effect kino would have had on her.

Maybe I should've tested it on her, to see what kind of an effect it would've had. I've read a lot about it, but there are so many things that work in theory but not in practice. So maybe next time I talk to a girl, I'll try some kino, and see how it works, because that's the true test.

posted 11-14-2001 06:24 AM            

For example,Pook said kino is good but Anti-Dump doesn't really agree with it. It's not that he is going against it but he just doesn't believe in kino. Here's a test to find out, since many said do kino now while some said do kino later, perhaps you should do this, After getting her number and setting up an outing, try kino on her,preferably on the first outing.

posted 11-16-2001 06:59 PM            

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Originally posted by IntermediateDonJuaner:
Here's my idea on this. There are many conflicting ideas here about kino. Some said do kino,some will say no.

For example,Pook said kino is good but Anti-Dump doesn't really agree with it. It's not that he is going against it but he just doesn't believe in kino. Here's a test to find out, since many said do kino now while some said do kino later, perhaps you should do this, After getting her number and setting up an outing, try kino on her,preferably on the first outing.

Maybe this will work. Try it and let us know!

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I find that convo AND KINO is a POWERFUL combo! If you can charm her with your words (Making heer feel good about herself, because you are so interested in her) and get her thinking about you on a physical basis, you will be onto a 2 pronged approach that is likely to get success!