posted 09-03-2001 09:54 PM            

1. You need to have the right attitude!

-This is made up mostly of confidence. You can gain so much confidence just
by reading this board. With the
knowledge gained, you'll have more
confidence that you'll do the right
things in your relationships, and your
approach to women.

-For you shy guys (I'm a recovering shy
guy myself) You have to find the
motivation to stop yourself from being
shy. I've found JamesBonds' posts a
big help in this area.
Nobody has to be shy. You choose to
be shy. Don't let fear stop you
anymore! You have to realize that you
WILL make mistakes. You WILL fail
more than you succeed. You WILL get
rejected a lot, at first. This WILL
hurt, and it won't happen overnight.
But, in the end you'll find the pain
of getting over your shyness is
sweeter than some of the relationships
you'll be having.
You have to work hard to get over
shyness. No one can do it for you.
But, you can do it! The work you do
will build character and confidence.
It will make you a better man, and
give you a better life.

2.You need to have patience and self-control if you're looking for a LTR.

-If you come on too strong or too fast
you'll scare her off. Or, worse,
you'll be seen as weak and desperate.
-Don't rush things. She sets the pace
in the relationship. Let her initiate
touching. Don't rush for a kiss or
commitment too soon. Wait at least a
few days to call her early on. (preferably 5 to 9)
- Don't fall for her too much, too
soon. If you do, at least don't let
her know it. Always make her wonder
where she stands with you. Remember:
Be a Challenge. If she really likes
you, she wants to chase you. She
likes mystery. She likes to feel
that she has to work to beat the com-
petition to win you over. Why spoil
her fun?

-Remember: You're the prize she has to
win. List all of the good things
about yourself. Keep adding to the
list everyday. Watch you confidence
grow as the list grows. You'll soon
see why you're a good catch for any
woman.

3. Don't be a wimp.

-Don't be afraid to stand up to her and
say no from time to time. Don't say
it all the time, just let her know you
will stand up to her. Let her know if
she does something you don't like. If
you're going to keep her, you're going
to have to keep her respect.

4. Don't ignore red flags and signs that she's really not interested in you.

-In case you haven't noticed, she's
often testing you. How many guys
test women? We often overlook
serious character flaws and lack of
integrity in a woman, because we can't
get past physical beauty and lust for
sex. That's fine if all you want is
a one night stand. But, if you want a
LTR, you better pay close attention to
her every word and deed. This will
save you a lot of time, and heartache.
-It also helps to learn the signs of
her having a low interest level in
you. (I know this from plenty of
recent experience.) It'll keep you
from wasting more time and money,
than you should. And, it'll keep you from looking and feeling like an
idiot.