posted 08-26-2001 07:57 PM            

The other night I went out with a girl, a week later I was (you guessed it) rejected. It didn't really bother me too much because I knew I had learned from it.

Anyway, I got home and was listening to music and a song called 'The Last Laugh.' came on. This got me to thinking about my experience and it hit me that this is a perfect attitude to have.

I am assuming that if you are reading tips from this site then you are trying to improve yourself (or giving advice). Obviously, when a girl rejects you, you will not become part of her life and you miss out on the relationship. So why do you have the last laugh?

For a number of reasons:
1. She is missing the company of a great guy and thinks that she is making the right choice.
2. You are improving yourself, so in the future, you will be even more of a catch. Ironically, it may turn out that her rejection of you is even more incentive to make yourself a better person (to become a better person I just mean try new things, build confidence, learn about people, etc.), if she had accepted you, you would have less time to carry out activities you want to do and may become complacent in your efforts of self-improvement.

Therefore she is missing out on the great person you are and the greater person you will be (a greater person that she may have helped develop, in an indirect way). You maintain the freedom of bachelorhood, the desire to keep on moving ahead in life and the choice of more women who can appreciate you.

posted 08-31-2001 01:00 AM            

It's been 2 weeks since i started posting here...and my outlook, and attitude, have changed immesurably. I see Progress, Confidence, and Change. And your "last laugh" theory...it's golden. the beauty of it is, now that i've seen just how possible it is for me to get a woman interested in me, is this: You really DO have the last laugh...each rejection, each time it "doesn't work out"...just helps you improve, and increases your ability to get a real hottie...

posted 09-01-2001 10:39 PM            

you make out of your experience what you want to make out of it.

There's the Chump response: Geez, that chick's right. I AM pathetic-so pathetic even I wouldn't want me.

And there's the Champ response: Basitch, don't know what she's missing & up the road a piece, her loss will be EVEN GREATER 'cause I am always improving this machine, baby.

posted 09-02-2001 01:49 AM            

"Oh Pooky! She rejected me! Woe is me, oh how can I live without her love!"

Then I watch this guy spend years of his life in the same vicious cycle, chasing after women when he hasn't been improving himself in any way.

Three years later, "Pooky! Oh, my, what have I done! I have pursued and what have I to show for it? I could have used those years to better myself! Alas, what a waste!"

This is a friend of mine. I hope everyone here will never be like him.

"Pooky," he would say, "you were right. I gave her gifts, she accepted them with a smile, and I recieved nothing. I gave her attention, she accepted that with delight, and I recieved nothing. I gave her my declarations of love, she accepted that with giggle and glee, and I recieved nothing. But when I gave her nothing, she gave me practically everything. When I could deal with my emotions rather then having them leap out and spasm in forms of gifts, poetry, declarations of love, infinite phone calls, etc. the woman became and stayed interested."

This is why when I'm Papa Pook and my little Pooks arrive at the Coming of Age, I will tell my Pooksters,

"The key to dealing with women is in how you deal with yourself."