posted 08-06-2001 09:34 PM            

Now that you�ve broken the ice and have started to create rapport, your next step is to increase the rapport; this is done by going a little deeper into her background. You created rapport by finding out where she�s from, now in order to increase it you need to find out why she�s here.

I recommend continuing with these questions:

A) �So what brought you down here?�

B) �So what keeps you down here?�

C) For this situation, the overall approach is similar but there are some slight variations that might confuse you so I recommend sticking to the women who are currently living around your area for now.

There are 5 possible reasons/situations:

1) Work
2) College
3) Family
4) Friends
5) Misc.

Note: How she chooses to answer this question will tell you a lot about her character and what she thinks is important.

1) Work

• If she didn�t tell you what she does then ask: �What do you do?� or �So what do you do?�

• After she answers say: �That�s interesting�is it fun working there?� or �That�s interesting�do you like working there?�

• After she answers ask: �How long you been working there?�

• At this point she might ask what you do and/or how long you been working there.

• Note:Don�t tell her if she doesn�t ask.

• If she asks, it�s all right to tell her but don�t go into detail.

• For example just say: �I�ve been working as a <occupation> for < time>�.

• Then ask: �Did you go to college?� or �Do you go to college?�

• If yes then go directly to number (2).
  

2) College

a) She�s currently going to college:

• If she didn�t tell you which college then ask: �What college do you go to?�

• Then ask: �What�s your major?�

• Then ask: �What are you?�

• Then ask: �How you like it so far?�

• If you started from number (2), then continue from number (1) with: �Do you work?�� �What do you do?�
  

b) She�s already gone to college:

• If she didn�t tell you which college then ask: �What college did you go to?�

• Then ask: �What did you major in?�

• Then ask: �How long did it take you?�

• Then ask: �Did you go to graduate school?�

• If yes then ask: �Where at?�� then drop this subject for now after she answers.

• If you started from number (2), then continue from number (1) with: �Do you work?�� �What do you do?�
  

Note: 75% of the time they will reciprocate with the same questions you asked them. Be sure not to go into too much detail and don�t tell her your college, major or anything else until she asks.

3) Family

• If she says family, you can be certain family is important to her. They will say something like� � I came here to be closer to my family� or � I have a lot of family around here�.

• After she tells you that family is the reason why she�s here or still here, don�t ask her any questions about her family just yet. Just be sure to remember what she said, then go directly to number (1) starting with: �So what do you do?�

• If she doesn�t work, go directly to number (2) with: �Do you go to college?�
  

4) Friends

• This means that her friends are very important to her. Do exactly what you would in situation (3). Don�t ask her any questions about her friends just yet. Just be sure to remember what she said, then go directly to number (1) starting with: �So what do you do?�

• If she doesn�t work, go directly to number (2) with: �Do you go to college?�
  

5) Misc.

• Occasionally you will get women who will not fall into any of the categories above. If this happens, just do exactly what you would in situations (3) and (4). Don�t ask her any questions about her reason just yet. Just be sure to remember what she said, then go directly to number (1) starting with: �So what do you do?�

• If she doesn�t work, go directly to number (2) with: �Do you go to college?�
  

posted 08-08-2001 10:07 PM            

I'd also like to clear up another thing�there is a purpose as to why I recommend that you say what's stated in the specific order presented. Reading the lessons a few times won't cut it�they must be read ten times over while trying to figure out why I say what I do and why I say it in a particular order. The answers are all in the lessons�you just have to read between the lines.

Here's something AD said that reinforces my way of thought:

quote:

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"It has to be a 'scripted' game. It can't vary. Why? Because then your RESULTS will vary."
- Anti-Dump

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