posted 08-02-2001 08:53 PM            

This is when you start to run serious game on her. The easiest way to create rapport is to start asking about her background. It should be done in a stylish way that makes you seem similar to her. To make her as interested in you as possible you need to make things up when you need to; this requires quick thinking, preparation, and good listening skills.

I recommend starting your rap with this question:

�Where are you from?�

There are 3 possible situations:

A) She lives around the area but grew up someplace else

B) She�s been living around the area all her life

C) She�s just visiting and is from out of town

*Each situation assumes you�re living in an area you didn�t grow up in*

Running game in each scenario:

A) She lives around the area but grew up someplace else:

• She�ll give you a city, state, and/or country

  
  i. You�ve been there: �That�s a nice place�.I was there < days, weeks, months, years> ago�how long you been living here?�

  ii. You�ve never been there: �Oh�I�ve never been there before�what�s it like over there?���<she answers>��how long you been living here?�

  iii. You�ve never heard of the place: �Where�s that at?��..< she answers> �. �..how long you been living here?�
  

• She�ll say: �I�ve been living here for < length of time>�.

• If she says: � I don�t live here, I�m just visiting�� go directly to part C.

• You say: �I�ve been living here for < length of time> now.� how you like it here?�

• Saying how long you�ve been living here before asking how she likes it here will make it sound like you�re not just asking questions. Your rap can�t just consist of questions; you have to tell her things about yourself that are relevant to the situation as well.

• If she says she likes it here you say:

  � I like it here too�it�s a nice place�.

• If she says she doesn�t like it here or says, �It�s alright�� you say:

  � Yeah� I know�it�s not really that nice around here�.

• A good way to make yourself seem similar to her is to agree with her.
  

B) She�s been living around the area all her life:

• After she tells you she�s from here, ask:

  �You been here all your life?�

• She will say yes, tell you she moved back from another place, or tell you she�s always lived relatively in the same area. ��. make sure you remember this stuff so you can bring it up later in the conversation.

• Then say� �Yeah�it�s nice being close to home �I�ve been living here for <time> now�.

• Saying� �Yeah�it�s nice being close to home�� �shows her that you listened and were able to relate to her situation.
  

C) She�s just visiting and is from out of town:

• She will say �.. �I�m from <place>��I�m just here visiting�.
  
  
• If she didn�t mention how long she (would be/was) in town, then say:

  �How long you here for?��or� �How long you been here?�

• Decide whether you�ll continue speaking to her based on how much longer she�ll be in town.

• If you decide to continue running game just pick up from:

  �I�ve been living here for < time> now��.how you like it here so far?�
  

* There are many variables in the beginning but they�ll all eventually come together.