posted 07-08-2001 03:33 PM            

Rejection, rejection by a woman, rejection by the woman, the woman who
has captured your thoughts, the woman whose smile sends shivers of
warmth down your spine, the woman whose touch you dream of ... this
icy doom fills you with dread. It is the utter desolation of
helplessness. It is the worm of self-doubt. It is the gripping fear
that warns you to abandon hope.

Rejection is a part of everyday life. People are turned down for
raises, refused promotions, declined for loans, and passed over for
recognition. Rejection is not final. Rejection is not ruin. Indeed,
rejection can be the precursor to eventual success.

There is nothing personal about rejection. It happens to everyone.
It is part of "the cost of doing business". It is intimately
connected with risk taking. Every worthwhile endeavor at some point
involves the risk of failure. This is what makes life interesting.

It is only by risking our persons from one hour to another that we
live at all. And often enough our faith beforehand in an uncertified
result is the only thing that makes the result come true.

Consider a rejection as a "second opinion" of sorts. The woman who
rejects you might well have sounder judgment in the matter of a
possible relationship than you. She may have compelling reasons for
her conclusion that you are ill suited for each other, saving the both
of you a great deal of future grief. This does not, of course, mean
you are worthless as a person, just that she was not meant for you,
and that you should find someone else.

There are techniques that can remove some of the sting from the fear
of rejection. Simply "scoping the situation out", proceeding in small
steps, rather than taking the grand plunge all at once is a prudent
method of risk management. Asking a woman you have just met to become
intimately involved with you is an enterprise almost certain to fail.
Asking her to share five minutes over a cup of coffee is a more modest
proposal, one much more likely to meet with her approval (after that,
she may hint, or even let you know outright if she is willing to go
farther). Tackle tricky situations in small increments.

When you do face rejection, and you will, accept it with good cheer.
Bounce back and try again (presumably with a different woman).
Continued life experience will desensitize you to the trauma of having
doors slammed in your face. You learn to survive. You learn to go
on. You learn to keep trying.

Since everything in life is but an experience perfect in being what it
is, having nothing to do with good or bad, acceptance or rejection,
one may well burst out in laughter.

Don Diebel www.getgirls.com

posted 07-10-2001 10:26 AM            

One of the techniques I tell my sales force is that rejections are not personal, they are not about you, they are about the other person. Don't think of it as a rejection, instead appreciate it for what it is. For whatever reason, this other person is saying "we are not a good match". Therefore if you are rejected, simply say politely, thank you for not allowing me to wasting my time so that I can move on to someone who deserves what I have to offer. Then walk
away. Not only does this put a more possitive association to the rejection in your mind, it also confuses the hell out of the other person and may even make them wonder that maybe they just missed out on something.

posted 07-10-2001 09:34 PM            

Then I went into, "well, at least I know now" phase, stil kind of blown away... Then it was like "fukk, ok, she doesn't like me, fukk that shyt. Who cares, she doesn't like me, then she doesn't like me. If she doesn't like me, I won't like her back. That's one less person she doesn't have liking her!"

Hehe. That was like my revenge, hehe. Not very good revenge though. Better than nothing. If that's not enough, then that's too bad, just deal with it.

posted 07-13-2001 11:09 AM            

WITH QUANTITY you will forget all the rejections because there will always be another woman or women to move forward with.

Even if I am dating a girl I think is awesome, I keep going for phone numbers because you don't know what tomorrow has in store for you. You never ever know.

posted 05-21-2002 01:16 PM            

eventual success.

The woman who rejects you might well have sounder judgment in the matter of a
possible relationship than you. She may have compelling reasons for
her conclusion that you are ill suited for each other, saving the both
of you a great deal of future grief.

posted 07-31-2002 04:13 PM            

So as soon as you get one NO your only nine NO�s away from your next YES.