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Topic: Breaking Free
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Don Juan
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posted 06-02-2001 12:09 AM
   
Hi guys Simo' here. I only found this site 2 days ago and I must say top stuff. If only they tauhgt this stuff in schools. It gladdens my heart to see men getting together and sharing their experiences in the name of self improvement.
I work on a 3 strikes and I am out principle. This applies to all areas of my life not just in matters of the fairer sex. But seeing as that is the focus of this site I will share my experiences in this area.
18 months ago saw the end of the 3rd long term relationship for me. This last one leaving me with a daughter that I am no longer allowed to see. There is nothing more devastating than to be allowed to hold your child once then have her taken away. I had every right to be bitter but I chose to look within instead.I decided that If I could not have a happy relatlionship with a woman then I would learn to live without. I asked myself could I be happy without a woman in my life. This is not to say I did not want one I just did not want to be unhappy ever again. So I started dreaming of the things I wanted to do with my life. And there began the journey to freedom.
Once I had life goals that had meaning to me, instead of ones I thought I needed to follow just to impress the babes,my life started to change. I started to pursue financial freedom so as to be able to afford my goals and peak physical fitness so as to have the energy to achieve them. Basically I am busy building my foundations, on top of wich I will build my grandest version of my grandest vision of what I can become in this life time.
'Surprise' 'Surprise' there's women comming from every where. I am not saying that I am slaying babes left right and centre, I am saying that many are getting interested and I have not done one bit of chasing.
The bottom line is that when you focus on your own inner greatness your inner light begins to shine and like moths to a flame people will be attracted to you. When your only motivation in life is to discover your own greatness ,then you do not want or need anything from others, so they feel safe to be around you.When you stride out with the strength of your purpose every day people will follow for so few no where they are going.When people see you toil from dusk till dawn without expecting any reward they will come to ask why.When you can stand tall within yourself and know who you trully are, then you will unconciously give those around you permission to do the same.
Just concentrate on discovering yourself. You will automatically become purposefull,charming,mysterious etc. A great man lies in all men but only you yourself can find him. It is the road less travelled.Only about 10% of people follow it but the rewards are great, for those 10% stand out from the crowd.
And don't worry about the chicks. When you know yourself you get to pick and choose from the girls who also have had the courage to know themselves and they are the quality ones.
IP: 203.9.148.12 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 06-02-2001 01:07 PM
Great post spporter! One question: quote:
'Surprise' 'Surprise' there's women comming from every where. I am not saying that I am slaying babes left right and centre, I am saying that many are getting interested and I have not done one bit of chasing.
Are you talking about women you already knew, or does it also apply to the ones you try to meet in a first approach? Cya,
Neo ------------------
Go Confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined! IP: 212.239.169.92 |
Don Juan
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posted 06-02-2001 10:27 PM
Hi Neophite,
Thanks for the reply.Think of a question like an onion. When you peel of the first skin there is another, then another, then another etc,etc,etc. Would you think that it is fair to say that when you have asked the last question, what is left must be the ultimate answer. What are you left with when you have peeled of the last onion skin?.
Everybody out there is searching for the ultimate answer.Look around you.Every person is ultimately searching for the same thing. Some believe that fame will bring it to them some believe it is fortune. They believe that something external to them will bring them happiness. How many things have you bought that you just had to have which now lie forgoten at the back of a draw some where. Nothing or no one out there will bring you what you ultimately wish. If you say I need this person or this thing to be happy then you give away your power to that person or thing.They then control your ability to be happy. When you give up attachment for all things external then you gain the ability to stand calm while the storm rages around you.This is not to say that you cease to experience things external you mearly enjoy them while they are in your presence and then let them move on when it is time. In the centre of a cyclone there is the eye.And within the eye there is stillness. Life is like the cyclone. You can run around in the kaos chasing pretty trinkets or you can stand calmly in the eye and let the pretty trinkets come to you.If you try to hold on to a trinket eventually you will end up back in the kaos.Although inside the eye it is calm the eye as a whole moves with the storm. It takes focused concentration to move with the eye as the movement of the storm can be predicted by no one. If your focus is on the trinkets you cannot move with the storm and stay within the eye.Sure it's ok to admire the trinkets but hang on to them at your peril.
I hope this answers your question Neo,or should I say the question within the question.
Stand still within the calmness of the eye and the wind will blow all the pretty trinkets to you.------------------
'cause that's what dreams are made of. IP: 203.9.148.12 |
Don Juan
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posted 06-03-2001 03:44 AM
word up this was so thoro u r a wise wise man...i get mental intuitive illuminations on truth too...that stuff about about the ey of the storm..its BRILLIANT...look at the wisdom hidden in phemonenon of the cosmic order of nature! Did that jus come to you? cuz i'm on sum mental expansion sh!t too....peace god IP: 66.108.22.5 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 06-03-2001 08:03 AM
Nice symbolic explanation spporter! Great thoughts to keep in mind when trying to improve myself. Thanks!! ------------------
Don't let the Matrix control reality, take control of your own life starting now! Go Confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined! IP: 212.239.169.46 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 06-03-2001 03:36 PM
That is some great advice to live by, although it's probably not going to improve your chances of meeting women. What it does is give you peace of mind (which if you think about it, eliminates your need to even worry about women). By adopting this attitude, even if you are not successful with women, you'll still be happy. Which in turn will make you feel more successful.This is probably the answer to the problems of every guy on this board. Unfortunately, most of us can't completely change their way of thinking that easily. Of course if we did, it would eliminate the need for this forum, but who cares? The world is over populated anyway; wouldn't it be nice if everyone eliminated their desire to procreate and instead focused on self-fulfillment? I have a few questions though, spporter. How old are you? And if you are out of your twenties, how popular were you with the girls at that age? The reason I ask this is, from the information I've read on this site and others, as women get older their tastes change. The young ones go for the superficial qualities: social status, looks, rebelliousness, etc. When they get older, they look for stability: someone who is confident, happy with himself and a caring, genuine person. I'm not saying your change in attitude has nothing to do with it, it's just that much of your success may have to do with the growing maturity of the women you are attracting. [This message has been edited by krd (edited 06-03-2001).] IP: 24.91.166.42 |
Don Juan
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posted 06-04-2001 03:16 AM
I will be back.------------------
'cause that's what dreams are made of. IP: 203.9.148.12 |
Don Juan
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posted 06-04-2001 03:17 AM
i will be back------------------
'cause that's what dreams are made of. IP: 203.9.148.12 |
Don Juan
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posted 06-04-2001 03:18 AM
i will be back------------------
'cause that's what dreams are made of. IP: 203.9.148.12 |
Don Juan
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posted 06-04-2001 02:18 PM
I got one thing to say, bro...You ever notice how many chicks are into you once you have a girlfriend??? I'm sure every DJ can relate. When you're not busy lookin' is when they come to you....kind of ironic - but, hey, that's life. IP: 192.206.180.200 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 06-07-2001 02:55 AM
Well, supporter, I support you. I get tired of ignorant a$$ posts fom guys sniveling about "manipulation," "Why can't I just be myself?" "I don't need phony techniques," etc. Your post shows just how devastating to your life it can be when you don't have control in your relationships with women. I used to approach women from a position of neediness and desperation, and wound up in your circumstance,with a child I couldn't visit. It's good that you found this site, like I wish I would have long ago. IP: 198.81.17.52 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 06-07-2001 02:32 PM
Vegas I know exactly what you are talking about. You can really gauge a girls interest in you by going out with someone and seeing how she reacts. (The more she hates the person the better)  ------------------
I stole this from maranathaman and I urge you to steal it from me.
"Please remember to use the "SEARCH" function in this forum on the topic you have questions about before asking, because it most likely has been answered already! Thank you" There I fixed it ya happy now? IP: 209.240.221.89 |
Don Juan
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posted 06-13-2001 01:59 AM
Yeah i dont know why that is true, the more u look for them, the more you end up with failure. It's just a paradox of life i guess...u just gotta try to better yourself and keep working on things that interest you adn try to make your life meaningful and the girl will come.....IP: 24.4.252.76 |
Don Juan
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posted 08-04-2001 02:53 AM
spporter speaks in parables...------------------
Also los, Augen zu, und hinein IP: 134.129.158.113 |
Don Juan
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posted 08-13-2001 10:14 PM
Interesting Spporter very interesting. You speak the way of the truth. Nice use of symbollic gestures.Keep up the good work Spporter. Sometimes you are all speaking a different language, a language i'll never begin to conceive. May peace be with you -Cetra IP: 207.107.254.123 |
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