posted 05-28-2001 11:33 AM
Let me tell you something : if you associate enough pain and sadness to the following exercise, hesitation will no longer be in your vocabulary. If you do this with all your might, say goodbye to fear. You won't be afraid of taking a risk and start your own business. You won't be afraid to walk across a crowded room to ask for a phone number from a beautiful women. You will refuse to let your dreams die and haunt you as regrets on your death bed. You won't be afraid to be rejected on your first initial trials. You will refuse to become just another name on a tombstone.Now let's do this.
It will only take 15 minutes of your time.
This is called to "buried alive" exercise. Now you have to be totally dedicated to perform that exercise. This is not for the timid souls. It will fill your body with the most painful emotions a human being can feel : the fear of death (or, if you prefer, the fear of life...), and the fear of regret... the feeling that you have led a meaningless, sad, boring life.
Hopefully, after the exercise, you will realize that you are not dead after all. You will realize that you are still young, and that the world out there is a world of possibilities. Millions of possibilities. Hopefully, you will no longer fear to be adventurous and take risk because you fear rejection or because you could lose your comfortable but boring way of living. You will know IN YOUR GUT, NOT INTELLECTUALLY, that the greatest pain of all is dying and being haunted by your regrets, by the fear which provides comfort while stealing the essence of life : adventure, the unknown, women you can no longer kiss and hug, etc.
Now let's do this.
Lie down and relax. Cross your arms on your chest as if you were a dead body, ready to be buried.
Imagine all the details of your burial, as if it took place tomorrow morning. The only difference is that you are buried alive. Now, as the story unfolds (church, prayers, cemetery, you know what I'm saying, you've all seen that before...) tighten all your muscles in a desperate effort to move. But don't move. IMAGINE ALL THE DETAILS (people you love, the flowers in your coffin, etc...). MAKE IT REAL. Now think of all the women you have never talked to. Why? Yeah, that�s right : FEAR. Look at all your regrets and feel how much they weigh on your life. Know that there�s nothing you can�t do about it. Nobody can hear you. You are buried alive. I also want you to know that even if you could live one more week on this earth, you would probably remain the exact same person. Feel the pain of knowing that fear was stronger than you. Fear of rejection controlled your existence. But now it�s too late. *** FEEL THE PAIN ***. PAIN IS CRUCIAL.
Remember. We don't want to have an intellectual experience here. This is worth nothing. We want a gut level feeling that will change your life forever.
How will you know when the experience in intense enough? Simple� When you are crying silently in your room. I know this is not an easy task. But an intellectual experience means nothing when we are faced with real life situations. Only a gut level experience will change the way you deal with fear.
Now, when you can�t take it anymore, break the lid of your coffin with your whole body and scream like you never screamed before. (Now if you did this correctly, you won�t care about what people will think when they hear you screaming like a mad man. Who cares! You are alive!)
This is a new birth for you.
Breathe.
Now, take out a sheet of paper and write down all the things you will no longer accept in your life.
This is a fresh start for you.
"Wow! That was a cool exercise! ".
No, this could be your reality. We never know. I could be dead tomorrow. You could die tomorrow.
THESE TRAGEDIES HAPPEN EVERYWHERE, EVERYDAY. WILL YOU LET FEAR TAKE YOUR LIFE BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY DIE?
Now don�t post replies to this thread if you haven�t done the exercise in the first place. As I said before, this is a GUT LEVEL exercise. If you just read this post, you have experienced 0.00000000000001 % pain compared to the real experience.
I wish you adventure.
I wish you peace.
I wish you freedom.
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Speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far.
- Roosevelt
[This message has been edited by CHALENGE GUY (edited 05-28-2001).]
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