posted 05-11-2001 12:01 PM               

Most of us know when a woman sees us as a friend or as a potential lover. When a girl likes you, she gives off certain cues. Work your DJ skills by touching her (kino), keeping her laughing, and getting the phone number or date close.

It must be said here, that if a girl seems unwilling to give you her number or go out on a date, she's not really interested. MOVE ON!

As guys we're always giving women the benefit of the doubt, because most of us would never pass up, at least, an oppurtunity to get a free meal and have a night out with a fun person. That's why we don't see how women can never seem to quite make up their minds (in reality they're saying no). We rationalize it for them by saying "Oh she must really be busy," etc. The Law of Reality (Doc Love calls it the Reality Factor) says if you like a person then you make it known to them!

I've fallen victim many times to women's fickle ways. It's as almost if, one minute they really like you and the next minute they're saying, well let's just be friends. There is no better way I know, of making a woman make up her mind than to move on! She will know that you are not the average needy chump, and that you have options. As men we have catered to a woman's every need and want in hopes that they will reward us with sex! We have even given up some of our self respect for this coveted goal...and for what I might ask? To have her call us up on a Sunday night after Mr. Suave dumped her! Hell no!

Men of the world, I say get with the program, and make women realize that they must pursue you too! Every good relationship is reciprocal. If you call, she better call back or you will (now what's the phrase of the day class?) That's right...MOVE ON!

I hear guys say all the time, Mr. Suave she's acting really funny as of late. What should I do? MOVE ON!

But Mr. Suave, we had a really nice date. I called her and she hasn't called me back after 3 days! MOVE ON!

There's this really hot woman at work/school who keeps saying that she wants go go out but never seems to have any time! You get the point.

Guys, the moral of all this is that we hurt ourselves by trying to give women who are not attracted to us, a piece of ourselves (time, money, affection). We've all been there. These women string us along, never really devoting much of themselves back to us. We see the signs and know that it's not working, but we give up reason in hopes that we'll get sex! Which do you want in the long run? Emotional well-being or baggage?

There are great women out there. Women who we truly wouldn't mind giving ourselves to, and who wouldn't mind giving themselves back to us. Happy Hunting!

posted 05-11-2001 12:43 PM            

I'm a crap magnet too. We both talk from experience.

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posted 05-12-2001 02:31 PM            

A lot of men are too needy.

But, about the friend thing.

I know plenty of chix that may not be really interested in you as in something serious, but they are attracted to you and they might mess around with you.

I don't know about the rest of you guys, but many women I have been friends with have been attracted to me. I can tell when there's chemistry and there's an attraction and I'm sure U can too. Maybe it's the combination of my looks and personality. Maybe it's because I'm the man!

LOL j/k. Well not really! But, U know what I mean.

posted 05-14-2001 10:30 PM               

Women like to have things that they can't have and that don't come easy. If you think about it, pretty much any woman (that's not butt-ugly) can get just about any guy in the bed with her. That's not what really motivates them (it's what motivates us though). They dig the romance, intrigue, Hollywood Mel Gibson shyt that just doesn't exist! So...the closest we're gonna come to that is to show them that we're the shiznit and we aren't gonna take crap from 'em cause there are a million other girls trying to tear down our front door to get a date. It's a mentality!

posted 05-15-2001 07:30 PM               

I'm not so sure about that. Often they don't know themselves what they want, & their signals can be hard to decode, so if you're looking for an obvious signal you might never see it. She could be sending you what she thinks are clear signals, but if you don't pick up on them, she'll assume you're not interested. Or what if she's sitting there waiting for you to make your intentions clear?

Sometimes what seem like good signs aren't. Just because a woman smiles at you or laughs at your jokes doesn't mean she wants you. Do clowns get laid a lot?

posted 05-15-2001 10:19 PM               

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Originally posted by ChrisFl:
> Simply, if a woman likes you, she'll make it abundantly clear to you that she does!

I'm not so sure about that. Often they don't know themselves what they want, & their signals can be hard to decode, so if you're looking for an obvious signal you might never see it. She could be sending you what she thinks are clear signals, but if you don't pick up on them, she'll assume you're not interested. Or what if [b]she's sitting there waiting for you to make your intentions clear?

Sometimes what seem like good signs aren't. Just because a woman smiles at you or laughs at your jokes doesn't mean she wants you. Do clowns get laid a lot?

How else would you explain scenes where the guy wants to make a move & waits for a signal, yet never sees one, so he doesn't go for it? The girl might have sent all kinds of signals he didn't pick up on, so even though both people want to step things up, nothing happens.[/B]

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Well, if the woman doesn't know what she wants and you've done everything every budding Don Juan should do to establish your interest in her, put the ball in her court. That's what that whole post was about it anyway.

But Mr. Suave, she's giving off confusing cues. Acting like she likes me one minute and then not the other.

MOVE ON!

The Law of Reality says that if she's interested she'll accept that date with you and stop acting like a bytch if she wants to keep you, because you surely aren't going to put up with it.