posted 04-08-2001 04:25 AM
O.K., you�ve spotted her across the crowded room. In your mind, you�re confident that she�s the �one�. You slowly make your way to her. Your heart is pounding. Your palms are sweating. You reach her�. and then�
You open your mouth. You blow it! No second chances, bub.
Tip #1: Don�t request a date immediately. Wait until a conversation first occurs before asking her out.
For God�s sake, at least find out her name first! If she doesn�t know who in the world you are� no matter how nice, charming or goodlooking you may be, chances are VERY slim that she�s going to want to go out with a complete stranger.
Tip #2: Don�t pounce upon her the minute that she walks into the place.
A woman wants to become accustomed to her new surroundings, have a drink, talk to friends or relax before being rushed by a man who descends on her like a vulture to prey. Let her start enjoying herself before making your first move.
Tip #3: Don�t overdo it with flattery or flowery compliments.
�Your eyes light up the room like moonlight on still waters...�
Pleeeeease! Even if you�re sincere when throwing her a line like that. she�s going to have a tough time swallowing it. Compliments are all well and good, but don�t overdo it. When you DO say something nice, go for a nice casual comment like �You have a great smile� as opposed to �Nice rack ya got there!�.
Tip #4: If buying her a drink, don�t expect a miracle.
She may say �thank you�, but even that�s no guarantee. Better to send her a drink anonymously. This conjures up an element of mystery or intrigue that can inspire her to �investigate� the sender and personally thank you. This can lead to a conversation which can lead to� whatever.
Tip #5: When approaching a group of women, don�t hit on one after another.
Use your head. Every woman wants to feel special. If she sees you going from woman to woman like Musical Chairs, that �special� factor is tossed right out the window.
Tip #6: Don�t be desperate, overanxious or pushy. Respect her space and don�t get grabby or physical.
So many men ignore this rule. There�s a big difference between being pleasantly persistant and being an absolute nuisance. Keep your encounter with her conversational and friendly. Don�t ruin it by putting your arm around her. You may think you�re suave and debonair. Chances are, she thinks you�re an ******* .
Tip #7: Ask for her phone number ONLY if you plan on using it.
If you�re lucky enough to actually get her phone number on a napkin, your job is only half complete. Dial her up. She wouldn�t give you her number if she didn�t want you to call her.
Tip #8: Ask her out at least two or three days in advance.
Don�t try to rush the date. This wreaks of desperation. Play it cool, boy. Good things come to those who wait.
Tip #9: Don�t ask her to go away with you on a vacation, to a wedding or an office function.
You�ve just met her! She barely knows you, so a trip to Tahiti or your cousin�s barmitzvah are not prime choices for a first date.
Tip #10: Spend the money on breath mints.
Otherwise, you�ll never get past �hello�.