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Poet

Master Don Juan
posted 12-23-2000 09:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Poet     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Have a real curiosty to find out about the person in front of you, that's #1. The mind is full of thot's & dreams, how can U not find things to talk about? This perplexes me to no end when people say they can't think of things to talk about with chicks. The funnest part is to get into their little heads & open up all those closed drawers & just let the thot's come tumbling out like so many clothes that she has not tried on in ages. Ya they still fit & it feels good to get them out & try them on for size. U make her feel good by letting her do that.

#2, be a good listener & hear what she is saying, this will lead to numerous topics to discuss. U pick up the topic thread, U lead, she follows.

#3, Intrique her, make her think, ask "daring" & "silly" questions like, "how would U feel if U were standing here in your underwear talking to me" Whatever..just open up the topic & make her laugh about it.

#4, Ask about her opinions on the: present situation, her clothes, her work, her hobbies, her likes & dislikes, kissing, sex, food, whatever! There are a million topics, the future, dreams, the past, family, relationships, sports ad-nauseum.

#5 Have fun & it will all work out my friends. Think of yourself as a talk show host, keep it going & also let there be moments of silence, goad her to start a topic by clamming up for 20 or 30 seconds, see where she leads it to, this will tell U a lot about her. If she says nothing this also tells U a lot about her, U gotta elicite more convo. If she is totally devoid of initiating convo she is either not interested in U or she is a bimbo with no neronal connections to speak of. If that is the case then fluff her & go for Kino & the close.

#6, Let her respond & do most of the talking, you just prep her & let her go, she'll take care of most of the words, U come in when U need to & keep it rolling along. Poet

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Boy83

Don Juan
posted 12-24-2000 04:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Boy83     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
great post!

"how would U feel if U were standing here in your underwear talking to me"

what? =) can you really say that to a girl that you've never seen and you two are standing in a que in a shop?

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Poet

Master Don Juan
posted 12-24-2000 10:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Poet     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Boy83:

Y not? Freak her little mind out! What do ya have to loose? Just remember to block any punches..Poet

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TheBlackStar

Don Juan
posted 12-28-2000 08:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TheBlackStar     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Great Post Man. Along with the proper midset should be a list of lose criteria for being a master Dj.

Live and Learn

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terminator911

Master Don Juan
posted 12-30-2000 03:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for terminator911     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Great post!

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HB_Hunter

Master Don Juan
posted 03-03-2001 04:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for HB_Hunter     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
absoultely fantastic post but we need to be practical here ...............i mean how to ask her these Questions n open her mind as a cupboard?? how to elicit her values without lookin' like a weirdo obtrusive dude?
shall u say it directly or what......i do know that gals care for those who find somethin' unique in them not their bodies features etc...

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IntermediateDonJuaner

Master Don Juan
posted 03-07-2001 10:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for IntermediateDonJuaner     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah right,"How would U feel if U were standing here in your underwear talking to me?".A master donjuan asking this sort of question.

I wannna see what will happen if you say this to a stranger!What boy83 said could be true.This will not work for a new person.Perhaps it's better to ask such a question after you've got to know them better!


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My techniqus and skills are learnt through the difficult way.I used TMC(Tin Moon Chan) to succeed with women and If i can do so,why not you!Trust your inner voice and have faith in yourself and success will shower you like rain!

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Poet

Master Don Juan
posted 03-07-2001 10:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Poet     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by IntermediateDonJuaner:
Yeah right,"How would U feel if U were standing here in your underwear talking to me?".A master donjuan asking this sort of question.

I wannna see what will happen if you say this to a stranger!What boy83 said could be true.This will not work for a new person.Perhaps it's better to ask such a question after you've got to know them better!


U would be suprised what can be said to someone U have only known for 5 minutes.....if the chemistry is good U can say almost anything! Poet

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nickmado

Don Juan
posted 11-13-2001 09:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for nickmado     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey poet, very nice post. But one question. How do i go about kino with a girl ive just met? I mean how? where? the arm? well please reply. Thanks

nick-

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a failed abortion

Don Juan
posted 11-14-2001 07:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for a failed abortion     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't see what the problem is with asking a babe you just met a question like that, if you think it's wrong or can't do it then I say you're just too insecure.

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Poet

Master Don Juan
posted 11-14-2001 07:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Poet     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
nickmado

Dragging my old posts outa the closet?! Oh well..Kino her with emphasis to puctuate conversation....it comes with practice. Touch on the shoulder to direct her attention to something U want her to see....give her the vulcan mind meld & read her thoughts...I still gotta do that one! Could be fun! Later, Poet

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Nine Breaker

Master Don Juan
posted 11-14-2001 09:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nine Breaker     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good post, Poet.

On point #6 however, I would have added a bit about "open-ended questions". That is always an excellent way of keeping a good conversation rolling on.

[for those of you who are clueless to "open-ended Q's" it means when you ask a question, it is one that allows her to make something of a discussion for her answer, rather than simply saying "yes." or "no." or "maybe." - thanks to whoever originally brought that idea up!]

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Virtuoso

Don Juan
posted 11-15-2001 08:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Virtuoso     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Great posts guys!

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A winner says"It may be difficult but its possible"

A loser says,"It may be possible but its too difficult"

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IntermediateDonJuaner

Master Don Juan
posted 11-16-2001 07:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for IntermediateDonJuaner     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
A failed abortion, if you're the man's man and have big balls between your legs, go try it out and see what will happened? If you get something positive,GOOD FOR YOU! Otherwise,expect the worst that might happen to you

By the way guys, I also covered about conversation in my old post,I think the title is "Be better in words,success in conversation" if I am not mistaken.

Check it out!

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CasaNova 666

Master Don Juan
posted 08-20-2002 11:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CasaNova 666     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
GOOD POST!

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George Gordon

Don Juan
posted 08-21-2002 07:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for George Gordon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I like that I've been seeing a lot of threads on conversation, and leading. It seems to me that this is where AFCs and Junior Juans are completely clueless; and this is so essential!

-George Gordon.

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Calpurnius Rex

Don Juan
posted 09-16-2002 12:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Calpurnius Rex     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
One of the things I like to use in conversational tactics is: "Tell me a secret."

It intiates and deepens rapport as well as giving you a clue to her mindset in "reading" the secret.

A woman who will tell you a sexual secret is not thinking about sports.

Be ready to counter or to ante-up with a secret of your own.

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