posted 08-13-2000 09:50 AM            

If you want to gain greater personal
confidence and strength and discover the real
Truth about jerks! This section is for you!

Most People want very much to be strong, but do not seem to be able to find the real strength they yearn for. Instead, they find qualities that pass themselves off as strength, but secretly leave these people feeling weak.
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Some Examples of FALSE STRENGTH and FALSE CONFIDENCE
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- Lashing out in anger when frustrated
- Demanding that we are right
- Blaming someone else for causing the problem
- Being loud and intimidating, or cold and critical

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Now Here are some Examples of REAL STRENGTH and CONFIDENCE!
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- Remaining calm in a crisis
- Never feeling the need to prove ourselves to anyone
- Seeking to solve the problem rather than placing blame
- Seeing all problems and setbacks as necessary steps to greater success in the future.

With the above said. Please take a look at the first list(FALSE CONFIDENCE). Isn't
This how many jerks act??. It has been said many times that "Jerks" just
APPEAR confident and in control, but in reality they are only using anger and
Aggression to mask their fears and insecurities!

Unfortunately, girls don't see the fakery in the attitudes the jerks possess, so they
are attracted to them. The problem with this is, although the jerk can attract the
girls, he often ends up breaking there hearts and losing them. So what is the answer? We all
know full well that being the "nice guy" doesn't work? The answer lies within the
qualities listed in the second category above (REAL STRENGHT/CONFIDENCE) If
we can learn to be cool and together and emit true confidence. We will not only attract
the women of our dreams, but we will also possess the skills to KEEP THEM IN
OUR LIFE. Practice this for yourself. It isn't easy, but it will sure put you ahead
Of the average guy!

Rob,

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The Difference Between Winning and Losing, Is Knowing...

[This message has been edited by Robert Jordon (edited 08-13-2000).]

posted 08-13-2000 10:41 AM            

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Originally posted by SuperM:
but if I had to choose between the two I would say that it's much better to be the jerk than the nice guy.

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At least you would start closer to home and reality.
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Robert, you are right when you say the girls don't see the true insecurity in the Jerk. It sucks but that's the truth.

They want strength and THAT'S the side they must see first. The 'soft' side should only be revealed after a long time.

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